Learning to say “no”

I’m going to take some time today to write about something that’s been on my mind recently. I hope you don’t mind. And maybe you’re feeling the same way and it will bring comfort to you.

I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed lately. I love this time of year because the weather is finally warming up; everyone is coming out of hiding after a long and snowy winter. That also means my calendar has filled up quickly. And not just for the next few weeks, but for the next few months. Sure, there are lots of fun things to look forward to…weddings, baby showers, birthdays, weekend getaways, etc. but when I look at my calendar and don’t see any free days or weekends in my future, I start to panic.

I know many of you out there feel the same way. We live in a culture of busy busy busy. Being busy alludes to importance and power. How many times has someone asked you how you were doing and your response was, “busy!”

busy 1

I have fallen victim to the busy card too many times. I am a person who (in general) likes to keep moving and my husband is the same way. We are always up for meeting for drinks, coffee or lunch. We never want to miss a party or event. We are always adding more work to our plate whether it be in our home, our church or whatever else we have going on. It feels good to be productive. It feels good to feel needed. It feels good to have an amazing group of friends and family to be busy with! I am also very fortunate enough to have a job that’s not too stressful and I very rarely take work home with me. Maybe that’s why I feel the need to add more to my plate outside of the office?

But when I’m rapidly accepting invitations, more responsibilities, more projects…what happens? I get sick three times in the span of a few weeks. I start to feel claustrophobic. I start to get resentful of my committments.

glorification of busy

I know that life is not going to slow down. It’s only going to get crazier and more hectic. And someday adding kids to the picture? I can’t even fathom it.

So what’s a busy girl to do? Start saying “no.” And stop feeling guilty. No one can be everywhere and do everything. So this spring, I have decided that I’m really going to make an effort to work on this. I would like to take a little more control so that I can be definitive about what I do and don’t do. At the end of the day, taking a little time to do nothing does wonders for my soul.  I’m sure you feel the same way, too.


I hope this post encourages you. I think sometimes we all just need a gentle reminder that it’s OK to slow down and do nothing for a little while.

Have a great week!


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